Despite the title, this is NOT your typical single’s post…
I have heard it said so many times that:
- “As a single person, you have so much opportunity!”
- “You can reach the world in ways a married woman can’t!”
- “Singles have the power to change the WORLD for the glorification of God!!”
Even I’ve said some of those words. Believed those words. And I’ve found that holding fast to those words just leads me down a path of disillusionment and discontentment.
Now, I’ll admit that there is some truth to such statements (well, some of them, anyway). After all, a single person does not have the same commitments and responsibilities that a married person has; therefore they have more freedom to up and relocate on a whim, or volunteer in multiple areas of church service. And that’s a good thing.
I think what gets my goat about such statements is that it gives us the impression that a single person’s purpose and a married person’s purpose are two very different things.
But they’re actually not.
The truth is, you have the same purpose as married woman with three kids and two gerbils. Your purpose, her purpose, my purpose is found in Jesus’ own words:
And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ This is the first commandment. And the second, like it, is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’There is no other commandment greater than these.”
Mark 12:30-31 NKJV
Them’s Jesus’ own words, m’dear. And they don’t specify a relationship status.
Your purpose is not greater than my purpose, and vise versa. The result of my loving God with all my heart/soul/mind/strength might be different than yours, but that doesn’t make me better than you. If you and I aren’t following God’s commandments, then regardless of our current season of life, we’re not honoring God. It’s just that simple.
Because if you can’t serve God right now, you can’t serve God in a different season of life.
And if you’re not content right now, you will not be content in another season of life.
Being single can be difficult, can’t it? We ache and long and get discouraged. We miss our friends who’ve changed their relationship status and now don’t have as much time for us. We feel the sting of desires unmet whilst scrolling through social media, viewing post after post after post about everyone else moving into a season of life we’ve so desperately wanted to be in ourselves.
Here’s a bit of frank truth for your heart today, my friend: You are not a failure. You are not sub-par. You are not an outcast. You are not better than or worse than the woman next to you, or the women to whom you keep comparing yourself.
YOU are God’s precious creation. YOU were formed and designed for a specific, beautiful purpose that only God could give to you. God loves YOU so much that He gave His only Son to die a horrific death, just so that you’d have a chance at eternal life(John 3:16). YOU have been called to give God your all, regardless of your relationship status or life season–now and for the rest of your life.
So how about you and I start living like we actually believe that truth today?
Whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.
1 Corinthians 10:2 NKJV